Learning Together

Grandparent’s day was yesterday, and in light of the fact that I am sitting in my office listening to the school from across the parking lot (our church leases our educational building to a school during the week and they borrow our sanctuary for larger events) in their recognition of this day, and the fact that it was the first time we were able celebrate with my parents, even as foster grandparents, I have been contemplating my childhood and all it entailed.

Growing up was an adventure in my house. With five children, there was never a dull moment; someone was always up to something. Activity was often found at a frenetic pace, silence at a minimum. Chaos seemed to reign; all the while a carefully balanced order stabilized the disarray. 

I learned much from my parents. They taught me all the basics; daily living skills like washing behind my ears, respect for my elders, what manners are and how to mind them, to never give up, to obey the first time and without complaining. They also pointed me towards God, not in words alone, but by faith-filled example.

Since becoming a parent four months ago, I have come to appreciate their influence more than I ever have. Their love for my children, who are not yet fully mine and may never be, is encouraging; their support of my husband and I indispensable and very much appreciated.

 My parents have taught me much, so summarizing and categorizing all they have poured into my life is difficult, especially since I discover something new daily. But in honor of them, here is my effort to vocalize my appreciation of who they are.

My parents taught me to-

     Love

       God first, with all I am.  Family is second; they are your support system, you are family for life. Everyone needs unconditional love, even the neighbor who doesn’t seem to deserve it. By showing acceptance of others, giving honor and respect to everyone who crosses your path, no matter what their status in life, we glorify God and show our love for Him.

     

     Laugh

       Frequently! It’s good exercise and makes for a happy home. It also strengthens your dependence on God when you exhibit joy even in hard times.

     Learn

       From others. No matter what their age. Be teachable at every turn; learn from the wisdom of those who have gone before you, from the inexperience and exuberance of those who have not. Most of all learn from what God himself is teaching you in each and every moment

     Live

       Wholeheartedly. Do everything to the best of your ability, and don’t compare yourself to others; if you’ve done your best then there is nothing to be ashamed of! Colossians 3:23 has long been a favorite of mine because of this mentality.

     Listen

       For the voice of God. The still small voice whispering in your heart will have the greatest impact of any that my physically bombard, if you give ear to what it is saying.

My parents have impacted my life in profound ways, and I could recount story after story for each of the afore mentioned lessons, would time allow. For now however, it will have to be enough to say, “Thanks mom and dad!” My hope and prayer is that, with God’s help, I can be a parent like them. Imperfectly striving to be more like Jesus every day, learning what it means to live and be family together in our unconventional, God ordained way.